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Financial Bedlam

Financial Bedlam.  That’s how one client described his divorce. Like many people seeking a divorce, “Tim” just wanted a short and simple divorce without a lot of fighting over “things.”  (No, it’s not really Tim. See Disclaimer.)  Tim, a small business owner, has the “entrepreneurial temperament,” which means that he is used to getting what he wants, when he wants it.  Divorce was no different, so Tim did a lot of pushing.  After all, he was being “fair” and his wife just needed to see his side of things. For “Kathy” (see Disclaimer), Tim’s wife of 17 years, divorce was not at all simple or easy.  At first, Kathy was devastated and in denial.  She was terrified of being on her own, grief-stricken that Tim would break up their family, and outraged that Tim had announced the divorce to her “out of the blue.”  Kathy felt that she was at battle with an unseen force (maybe another woman?), so she gathered the “troops” — her girlfriends, family, teachers at the children’s school, hair stylist, and anyone else who would listen — to let them know how Tim had failed the family.  Kathy got the validation she was seeking and many of those “troops” advised her to take Tim to the cleaners to teach him a lesson.  Their advice was well-intentioned, but the worst possible thing they could have said. So Kathy and Tim engaged the “best” lawyers they could afford.  Tim’s attorney made settlement offers, demands, threats, and filed motions, pushing Kathy and her lawyer to accept Tim’s offers “within 24 hours or else.”  Kathy dug in her heels and her attorney,...

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As part of my mission to change the world one divorce at a time, I’ve enthusiastically embraced the concept of blogging in particular and social media in general.  As I begin this journey, I am holding the concept in my mind as an opportunity to share knowledge, enlighten non-lawyers, and inspire other family law professionals to jump on board the Peace Train. There might also be the occasional rant, for which I will apologize in advance because it’s bound to happen, given some of the crazy things that go on in family court. I welcome your comments and hope we can create a dialogue that sends out the first ripple of change in a very dysfunctional system so that we can develop a sustainable way to serve the real needs of families and children in transition. If you’ve been invited to subscribe, I hope you will join me (see the widget below or to the left) either by: RSS Feed Email Subscription Facebook LinkedIn Twitter Disclaimer: No matter what I write about, it’s not specifically about you — I’ve worked with literally hundreds of clients, most of them in very similar circumstances, so there may be a familiar ring to my stories. Also, I take poetic license with case stories, weaving in my own experiences with those of my colleagues, so each story will be an amalgamation of different people, situations, and outcomes. No matter what I write about, it’s not legal advice directed at you — in order to provide legal advice, I am ethically bound to determine conflicts, get background information, and gather the facts specific to your case. A blog is not legal advice, so please don’t...